I had to say goodbye to my darling bulldog last week. I had her by my side for 14 and a half years and the decision to put her down riddled me with emotional pain that actually hurt physically. It made me question the subject of quality of life. It also gave a life lesson of judgment. I lost my mum 15 years ago and she died naturally once but against her wishes was resuscitated by my brothers orders. I thought of him as selfish and it caused a rift. How little we understand till put in similar situations.
The loss of a beloved pet or family member can be an incredibly painful experience. Grief, in these instances, often manifests as deep emotional pain, and it can be overwhelming. While grief is a natural reaction to loss, the intensity of feelings can vary and affect people in unique ways.
Effects of Grief
Emotional Turmoil: Feelings of sadness, anger, guilt, and even confusion are common. Many find themselves rethinking memories or what could have been done differently. This can lead to self harm, neglect and family turmoil.
Physical Symptoms: Grief can take a toll on the body. Fatigue, headaches, loss of appetite, and even disrupted sleep patterns often accompany deep emotional pain.
Mental Strain: Cognitive effects like difficulty concentrating, forgetfulness, or feelings of emptiness may arise. Grief can cloud judgment and affect day-to-day functioning.
Social Withdrawal: Many grievers prefer solitude, retreating from friends and social interactions, feeling as if no one truly understands their pain.
Spiritual Crisis: Some may question their beliefs, wondering why such losses occur, while others may find solace in their faith.
Ways to Cope with Grief
Acknowledge Your Feelings: It's essential to allow yourself to feel the grief fully. Suppressing emotions only prolongs the pain. Cry, talk, or write about your feelings—let them out. Communication in writing can help to express your feelings in the immediate moment and also to look back on for clarity and expression. Talking to others can help with sharing in the loss and empathy with others.
Seek Support: Whether it’s through talking with friends, joining support groups, or consulting a therapist, sharing your grief can ease the burden. Grief is less heavy when shared.
Practice Self-Care: While it can be hard, maintaining regular routines such as eating well, resting, and staying active can help manage the stress of grief.
Create a Tribute: Honour the memory of your lost pet or family member. Whether it's through a small ritual, creating a memorial, or writing down cherished memories, it can offer closure and keep the connection alive.
Give Yourself Time: Grief doesn’t follow a set timeline. Some days will feel lighter than others, but healing is a process. Be gentle with yourself and understand that it’s okay to move at your own pace.
While grief may never entirely fade, coping strategies can help ease the journey toward healing. Remember, you don’t have to go through it alone. Support is always available—if you’re willing to seek it.
I created a short video on FB which talks about Grief and offers the chance to have a group Guided Meditation for this. Here is the link: https://www.facebook.com/reel/1490894952303832
I am here to talk about this with you privately and also optionally in a group setting. I can provide Guided Meditation sessions to help with the symptoms of loss, like insomnia and other coping strategies, when you're ready.
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For anyone who is experiencing grief and or loss, please know that you are not alone, and though each experience is personal, it all hurts and we can make it through these dark clouds together 💓
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